Domestic and family violence is alarmingly common yet often invisible within general practice: one in six Australian women and one in 16 men have experienced intimate partner violence, and abuse frequently begins or escalates during pregnancy. GPs are often the first professionals survivors turn to, so knowing when and how to ask about safety, document disclosures and provide a warm referral is essential. Our article outlines practical, trauma‑informed questions to use when red flags such as depression, anxiety, vague injuries or controlling partners emerge, and stresses the importance of accurate, neutral notes to protect both patient and doctor. It also provides clear thresholds for referring to clinical psychology—immediate danger or child risk, pregnancy, or escalating coercive control—and explains how services like Delta Psychology work alongside primary care to support recovery.